Blog Post #11 - Personality

I think I have a very easy, fun loving personality. I am able to get along with most people and definitely love being social. I am laid back and not up tight about anything except my school work. When it comes to people and everyday things, I am laid back, but if my school work is not done, I am way more up tight about it. Another positive trait would be organization. I am organized in and out of school. My locker, homework, and clubs in school are all super organized. At home, my closet and room is always neat and everything has its own place. I am super self-disciplined. My parents were strict on me growing up and now that they are laid back and giving me more freedoms, I am able to discipline myself and make good, smart decisions. I am a fun-loving person and can get along with most anyone. I enjoy helping others and listening to them and providing feedback when asked. The last positive trait would be I consider myself to be relatively smart. I have school smarts and street smarts. School comes pretty easy for me luckily and I am usually able to get stuff done. The first not so good trait would be I get stressed very easily. Sometimes I get stressed because of school and situations outside of school. The second one would be that I am very particular about different things like my homework or projects. I always have to have them just right and the way I envisioned them. The last negative thing would be getting nervous. I get really nervous giving speeches and talking in front of large groups. I also get somewhat nervous going into new situations.

I feel that I am more of a pessimistic person. I always feel like I am thinking ahead about all the negative things that could happen and thinking of ways to prevent them. I feel like this affects my life by always worrying and thinking ahead and possibly getting stressed out. My first example is when I have to take a test in school. I get stressed out and think about all the horrible outcomes of the test. This makes me nervous and sometimes I end up doing not so good because I am worrying too much. My second example is when I go into a new situation that I have never been involved in. Sometimes I think about all the negative things that could possibly happen and it pushes me away from trying new things.

The first trait that can change and adapt from situation to situation would be going from really laid back to being uptight and nervous. When I am in a situation where I feel super comfortable and know exactly what is going on, I am able to be relaxed and laid back. However, when it comes to having to do a speech or enter into a situation that I am unaware of, I get super nervous. It is adaptive because depending on my surrounding and what is going on will decide whether or not I am nervous and worry about things. The second trait would have to be how stressed out I get. I get stressed out super easy,especially at school. However, when I go home I am more at ease. They are two different environments that I adapt to and my personality traits change.

I have used "reaction formation" which is the tendency to act in a manner opposite to one's true feelings. When I was younger and had a crush on a boy, there were many times when you deny it and are mean to that boy because you have a crush on them. I have used "regression" which is relieving anxiety by showing immature behaviors that have relieved anxiety in the past. When I get mad or frustrated with parents or friends, there have been many occasions that I have punched things in my room or threw my cell phone and broke it. I have used "rationalization" which is the providing of socially acceptable reasons for one's inappropriate behavior. I used this when I have argued or been disrespectful to someone because I was standing up for myself or someone else.